Too often, we don’t see what’s right in front of us. We spend too much time thinking we are stuck. And yet, we don’t ask ourselves the question that terrifies most of us:

Why am I stuck?

Because if we asked ourselves this question, we would have to deal with our fears. It would make us vulnerable. And that’s just not cool in our world.

I don’t care who thinks it is cool. I want to be happy. And to get there, I need to do the hard work and deal with my fears.

Yesterday as my plane from NY was landing in SF, the woman next to me started talking to me. It’s funny how you can sit next to a stranger for six hours and never exchange a word apart from “excuse me” when one of you needs to go to the bathroom. She asked me if I was in NY for business. I shared that I just fired myself from corporate America and the start-up I joined was not for me so I am moving on There wasn’t enough time to share that I think I found my way since we were pulling to the gate.

Her response is what I hear a lot.

Wow! That’s brave. You are so lucky!

It has nothing to do with luck. It is about dealing with fears and stopping to have the inner negotiation. Ask yourself: “what’s the worst thing that can happen if I do this?” And then, realize that it most likely will never happen.  When we start seeing, we start living.