Preview from Getting Unstuck: You need to pick yourself and know what you need to make

Pick YourselfEvery kid can’t wait until they can be a grownup. The fantasy is that when you are an adult you can make your own choices, stay up all night and drink grownup beverages. It looks so easy and rewarding. But nobody tells you that it’s a lot tougher than it looks, that those feelings that you have that you are not good enough, that you’re doing something wrong, they tend to stay with you. Most people spend their life time trying to fit in and measure up. But there is a time when you start to see the truth that being grownup simply means that you know who you are and that you have the courage to be that person.

Most of us were raised to be ordinary but we all want to live an extraordinary life. We put restrictions on ourselves. What do you expect of yourself? Can you manifest the types of relationships you would like? If it were as simple as just following a manual, then everyone would just do that and be a success. You can go beyond being average. Continue reading

Time is the most valuable thing we have. You can’t make more of it.

Last year at this time I was on one of the most beautiful beaches in the world. It was a magical vacation. I just celebrated a dear friend’s 50th birthday with 20 of her

Naka

closest friends and family in Phuket. I treated myself to a week at Naka Island, which was pure bliss. I went on my own #1) because I am on my own and #2) I wanted to figure out how to change my life. It was a great experience and only the beginning of my journey of taking control of my life. One of the biggest changes I made was that this was the first time in over 12 years that I did not bring my work computer. Sure, I had my iPAD but I did not log on to my work email at all. This time was about me. This isn’t to say I wasn’t online and connected. I was because it’s part of who I am. I don’t need a break since I am not overwhelmed by social technologies. But I did need true time off work, which was defining my entire existence. When I returned from my vacation, I was a bit lighter but I fell right back into my old habits of working to live. Continue reading

People will take

People you work with will take as much as you are willing to give. Have you ever noticed how the same 10-15 people get tasked for every special project or team that springs up ? Where do the new ideas and thinking come from if the same people keep being tapped for their time, passion and wisdom on every initiative?


Last year at this time, I had just flown twice in 10 days to the east coast. I was about to go to a friend’s special birthday in Thailand and I also had a project to finish before I left. I was at my last meeting when a huge task fell on my lap and when I heard the words, “oh she’ll get it done before she goes. She always comes through,” I cringed. There were three other people in the room and yet, I was the one given the honor of doing even more work before my much needed vacation. Continue reading

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