Every kid can’t wait until they can be a grownup. The fantasy is that when you are an adult you can make your own choices, stay up all night and drink grownup beverages. It looks so easy and rewarding. But nobody tells you that it’s a lot tougher than it looks, that those feelings that you have that you are not good enough, that you’re doing something wrong, they tend to stay with you. Most people spend their life time trying to fit in and measure up. But there is a time when you start to see the truth that being grownup simply means that you know who you are and that you have the courage to be that person.
Most of us were raised to be ordinary but we all want to live an extraordinary life. We put restrictions on ourselves. What do you expect of yourself? Can you manifest the types of relationships you would like? If it were as simple as just following a manual, then everyone would just do that and be a success. You can go beyond being average.
Our instinct and the way we have been conditioned is to wait to be picked. Think about it, we were raised to wait for someone else to tell us that we are good enough to do what we want to do. As Seth shares, “Once you reject that impulse and realize that no one is going to select you—that Prince Charming has chosen another house—then you can actually get to work.”
I spent a large part of my life waiting to be validated and be picked; expecting my boss to do the “right thing.” And if he ever did, it came with huge price tag. What I know today is that if I focus on why I am doing something and identifying the core problem that needs to be addressed, I can go out and solve it. I can ask for help. I can connect with other smart people who choose to work with me to make a difference and get shit done.
You can choose whatever lifestyle you want. The question is do you have the tools and permission you need to solve a problem that will give you the financial and emotional independence you seek? What are you waiting for?