I have been coaching a woman (let’s call her Sarah) who is struggling at work. Her boss gets sadistic pleasure in making her life a living hell. Recently, I listened to her share the latest abusive antic and gave her some very tough love. I can see what she can’t see because she is living this nightmare. And it is so hard to see when you are in the thick of it. We were brought up around concepts of truth and justice but as we go into machine, reality shows us that it is about playing the game and survival. Continue reading
Category Archives: Dealing with assholes
The road to success is always under construction
When you want something bad enough, you will figure out how to make it happen. How badly do you want it? That is the question to work on.
One day I woke up and realized that there is nothing left in the organization that I wanted. I was a c-level executive in a $2+ billion business. There was no promotion. There was no title. There was no project. There was no purpose.I felt like work became a giant vacuum cleaner that kept sucking up my energy. My reward for doing good work was more work. Continue reading
Starving in Abundance
Many people perceive the world as increasingly complicated. Us, humans, are becoming more overwhelmed and stressed out every day. We find life hectic. We are running from place to place trying to simply keep up and stay afloat. Because what would happen if we had to stop checking stuff off our never ending to do list and think about what we wanted? Continue reading
Time is the most valuable thing we have. You can’t make more of it.
Last year at this time I was on one of the most beautiful beaches in the world. It was a magical vacation. I just celebrated a dear friend’s 50th birthday with 20 of her
closest friends and family in Phuket. I treated myself to a week at Naka Island, which was pure bliss. I went on my own #1) because I am on my own and #2) I wanted to figure out how to change my life. It was a great experience and only the beginning of my journey of taking control of my life. One of the biggest changes I made was that this was the first time in over 12 years that I did not bring my work computer. Sure, I had my iPAD but I did not log on to my work email at all. This time was about me. This isn’t to say I wasn’t online and connected. I was because it’s part of who I am. I don’t need a break since I am not overwhelmed by social technologies. But I did need true time off work, which was defining my entire existence. When I returned from my vacation, I was a bit lighter but I fell right back into my old habits of working to live. Continue reading
