This year has been amazing in the people I met and the conversations I’ve had. I learned so much from simply listening. After a challenging time of scheduling one particular call (it took us over 3 months to get our calendars aligned), it was finally the day to connect with Kevin Susman and I am so glad I did. We had no agenda apart from learning about what we are creating in the world. He shared with me that many years ago he had that job everyone wanted, except for him. Don’t get me wrong. He loved what he did but it forced him to choose work over his family. Continue reading
I have been hearing people talk about what’s on their bucket list for years. It ranges from jumping out of planes–with a parachute–to having the trip to Paris they have always dreamed of. It is a list of stuff they want to do some day. The ultimate goal is to check as many items off the list before you die.
Is that really the way to have a full life? Live for what you want to do? Sure, it works for some people and they feel a sense of accomplishment to declare to the world that they have jumped from that plane and are still alive to go tick off more bucket list items or feel their vision board led them to success. As we age, we realize that the only certainty we have is that one day we will die. But we are the ones passing through time and every person’s clock is unique to them. Continue reading
My generation has been sold a bill of goods. Here is the story we were sold:
- Have lots of friends. Be popular at school.
- Get good grades. Graduate.
- Get an education. Get a degree or two or three.
- Date. Meet good prospects who can provide and find the one that could be a “good” partner.
- Get a job so and have a great career.
- Marry. Have children. Make sure to have work-life balance.
- Climb the corporate ladder. Make sure to have work-life balance. Continue reading
I have been coaching a woman (let’s call her Sarah) who is struggling at work. Her boss gets sadistic pleasure in making her life a living hell. Recently, I listened to her share the latest abusive antic and gave her some very tough love. I can see what she can’t see because she is living this nightmare. And it is so hard to see when you are in the thick of it. We were brought up around concepts of truth and justice but as we go into machine, reality shows us that it is about playing the game and survival. Continue reading
One day I woke up and realized that there is nothing left in the organization that I wanted. I was a c-level executive in a $2+ billion business. There was no promotion. There was no title. There was no project. There was no purpose.I felt like work became a giant vacuum cleaner that kept sucking up my energy. My reward for doing good work was more work. Continue reading
Many people perceive the world as increasingly complicated. Us, humans, are becoming more overwhelmed and stressed out every day. We find life hectic. We are running from place to place trying to simply keep up and stay afloat. Because what would happen if we had to stop checking stuff off our never ending to do list and think about what we wanted? Continue reading
Last year at this time I was on one of the most beautiful beaches in the world. It was a magical vacation. I just celebrated a dear friend’s 50th birthday with 20 of her
closest friends and family in Phuket. I treated myself to a week at Naka Island, which was pure bliss. I went on my own #1) because I am on my own and #2) I wanted to figure out how to change my life. It was a great experience and only the beginning of my journey of taking control of my life. One of the biggest changes I made was that this was the first time in over 12 years that I did not bring my work computer. Sure, I had my iPAD but I did not log on to my work email at all. This time was about me. This isn’t to say I wasn’t online and connected. I was because it’s part of who I am. I don’t need a break since I am not overwhelmed by social technologies. But I did need true time off work, which was defining my entire existence. When I returned from my vacation, I was a bit lighter but I fell right back into my old habits of working to live. Continue reading