Many people spend their lives escaping instead of truly being available to the moment. Our heads are filled, from a young age, with the notion that we must have goals and a purpose. We get asked: what do you want to be when you grow up? Not: “what type of life do you want?” Continue reading
Category Archives: Divorcing your company
The road to success is always under construction
When you want something bad enough, you will figure out how to make it happen. How badly do you want it? That is the question to work on.
One day I woke up and realized that there is nothing left in the organization that I wanted. I was a c-level executive in a $2+ billion business. There was no promotion. There was no title. There was no project. There was no purpose.I felt like work became a giant vacuum cleaner that kept sucking up my energy. My reward for doing good work was more work. Continue reading
Create Your Rules: No One Else Knows What You Want
Do you wake up in the morning dreading opening your Inbox and starting the first of way too many meetings? Do you get announcements from your CEO that make you ask someone what the heck it means since it seems to be written in some secret code? Have you stopped reading the deluge of emails that come your way because they have nothing to do with what you need to get off your to-do list, apart from the ones that you know impact your own job?
You may have thought that by going to school, getting a degree and a fabulous job that your life would be a happy one. And yet, you wake up in the morning in dread. Wednesday gets you excited because it’s almost Friday and the weekend (is that why they call it hump day?). Then, the weekend finally comes around and “holy shit, it’s Monday” and it all starts all over again. Continue reading
Time is the most valuable thing we have. You can’t make more of it.
Last year at this time I was on one of the most beautiful beaches in the world. It was a magical vacation. I just celebrated a dear friend’s 50th birthday with 20 of her
closest friends and family in Phuket. I treated myself to a week at Naka Island, which was pure bliss. I went on my own #1) because I am on my own and #2) I wanted to figure out how to change my life. It was a great experience and only the beginning of my journey of taking control of my life. One of the biggest changes I made was that this was the first time in over 12 years that I did not bring my work computer. Sure, I had my iPAD but I did not log on to my work email at all. This time was about me. This isn’t to say I wasn’t online and connected. I was because it’s part of who I am. I don’t need a break since I am not overwhelmed by social technologies. But I did need true time off work, which was defining my entire existence. When I returned from my vacation, I was a bit lighter but I fell right back into my old habits of working to live. Continue reading
