Never Ever Give Up


If you see life as a journey, you won’t expect instant gratification. Like any journey, there are highs, lows and twists in the road.

I feel sad when people give up hope. My take is that when you run into roadblocks, you need to:

1. Stop and breathe. Always breathe.

2. Turn down the volume on the voice in your head. What’s in your control? What can you do right now?

3.Are you waiting to be picked for the next job, project or event? What can you do to pick yourself?

And lastly, be kind to yourself. Sometimes you start something and it’s not for you. That’s not failure. That’s wisdom. Know when to turn up the volume and when to simply walk away.


Stop the pitches: No one ever bought anything on an elevator

“So … what do you do?” is the first question we are asked when we meet someone new. Why? Because people want to know your affiliation and what box to fit you into.

It’s your choice. You can either put yourself in a bucket or create your own, which make them walk away from you. What they are assessing is whether you are interesting enough or if  you are simply trying to sell them something.

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Getting unstuck and seeing

Too often, we don’t see what’s right in front of us. We spend too much time thinking we are stuck. And yet, we don’t ask ourselves the question that terrifies most of us:

Why am I stuck?

Because if we asked ourselves this question, we would have to deal with our fears. It would make us vulnerable. And that’s just not cool in our world.

I don’t care who thinks it is cool. I want to be happy. And to get there, I need to do the hard work and deal with my fears. Continue reading

When someone shows you who they are …

in the first 15 seconds, believe them.

Often, we make excuses for people.

They didn’t really mean it.

They didn’t say that.

But people tend to give us a glimpse of who they are and we have been conditioned to make excuses for bad behavior.

Think about it. People may try to put their best face forward but if they say they are anxious and stressed and you think it is an excuse, what they are telling you is that they are anxious.

Believe them. And move on. You will have a much fuller life not letting negative people into your life.

Dealing with Change

Most of us don’t like change. We are socialized (a word I am not fond of) into liking routine and predictability so when change started creeping itself into our work life, most people didn’t like it. So companies created programs to deal with change. I am personally trained to deliver expert change management programs.  And I have for years. But I can’t do it anymore since my faith has been shattered.

Everyone keeps trying to implement change when in reality what’s happening is the “band-aid strategy.” Trying to stop the bleeding rarely works unless you deal with the gaping wound. And no one wants to deal with what’s truly challenged in the workplace today — leadership. We are facing one of the biggest leadership crisises in history in all aspects of of the world — government, healthcare, non-profits, corporate and it goes on and on. Slogans, posters and balloons have replaced authenticity and commitment to people. Continue reading

If time was a currency, how would you invest it?

Or the other headline for this post is “Life is to be short to be Surrounded by Assholes.”

As I get older, I realize how valuable my time is and where I invest it is one of the most important choices I need to make. And some times looking forward to an experience and then feeling disappointed is important. It gets you thinking about 1) what you wanted your expectations of an event to deliver and 2) what you don’t want in your life.

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