Are You Numbing Yourself with Busy?

Numbing Ourselves with BusyHave you noticed how busy everyone seems to be these days? We are so busy doing, achieving, tweeting, following, emailing, texting, connecting, keeping up and just working. And yes, we live in a 24/7 world. But it was the light bulb that changed the game in terms of  having light when we wanted. It was never social media and technology that made us busier. That is merely an illusion.

Choices have always been available to us. With growing fear in the workplace, people are putting more hours into work and have a false sense they need to be available whenever the job requires. Mantras like work-life balance make many resentful when they work on the weekends and know they simply need to work the hours to keep their jobs. And the older generation is befuddled by the younger generation who looks at this work reality and thinks it’s ridiculous. They see the world as life-work; a means to an end. They are not all defined by what they want to do but how they want to live. Continue reading

Doing the Hard Work: Saying No to Instant Gratification

Instant Gratification: Not!Have you ever experienced life as a big roller coaster ride?

Recently, there have been days when the ride has been blissful and then there were those really scary moments when you get to the top of the roller coaster and that sudden, fast swoosh sound from the wheels of the car below (or on top?) makes your insides feel like they are about to explode and you let out that gut wrenching scream. Sound familiar? Doesn’t it feel better after you get to yell at the top of your lungs?

We want to take a risk. We doubt. We fear. We feel overwhelmed. We second guess. We look for answers from others. We want to learn how they did it. We try their 7-step quick fix. We realize it may work for them but not us. Continue reading

Note to Self: You Don’t Get Out of this World Alive

successThe definition of success is often heavily influenced by our family, friends and colleagues. They will ask you and assess what, in their minds, you have accomplished. They don’t know always know or understand what is important to you. Finding personal fulfillment requires us to take a very personal look at how we define success and look inside ourselves for that answer. And while you may think that’s the hard part, it is usually just the beginning of a wonderful journey.

Last night I went to dinner with my mom and her best friend, who asked me what would I do if I could start all over now that I am older, wiser and with career “success” under my belt. I didn’t hesitate since in my heart of hearts I know that while writing, speaking and helping people and organizations is in my blood and is what I am creating now as my life, I would become a chef so I can share my passion for clean and healthy eating with others.

It would not be a life of endless meetings at the PowerPoint sausage factory. Continue reading

It’s Time to Celebrate … Yourself

celI am wary of our celebrity culture. Celebrating people who are in the public eye: movie stars, TV stars, musicians, athletes, social medis gurus, millionaires, billionaires and the list goes on and on and on. I am amazed at the awe and admiration that these people get from the public. The pedestal they are on as “successful” people. It doesn’t matter what part of the world I am in, it is the same level of admiration. Is this part of human nature to define success by how much your are in the public eye and wealthy you are? Can someone please explain this to me?

Just because someone has money or is higher up the ladder of success doesn’t mean they should be treated as better than anyone else. Too many people have been socialized into a misleading belief system that takes years to unlearn. What does it say that Brangelina is a Wikipedia entry and that Honey Boo Boo has over 2 million viewers? Continue reading

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