Many people spend their lives escaping instead of truly being available to the moment. Our heads are filled, from a young age, with the notion that we must have goals and a purpose. We get asked: what do you want to be when you grow up? Not: “what type of life do you want?” Continue reading
If you see life as a journey, you won’t expect instant gratification. Like any journey, there are highs, lows and twists in the road.
I feel sad when people give up hope. My take is that when you run into roadblocks, you need to:
1. Stop and breathe. Always breathe.
2. Turn down the volume on the voice in your head. What’s in your control? What can you do right now?
3.Are you waiting to be picked for the next job, project or event? What can you do to pick yourself?
And lastly, be kind to yourself. Sometimes you start something and it’s not for you. That’s not failure. That’s wisdom. Know when to turn up the volume and when to simply walk away.
How do you know when you’re done? When it’s time to move on? Sometimes it’s an impulse where the universe steps in and screams at us, like my United flight disaster. Other times you spend time thinking through your decision. But no matter how ready we believe we are, it is tough to let go of the past and our comfort zone. We don’t like feeling incompetent. Our fears too often get in the way.
What scares the living day lights out of you and why will you do something about it today? Is it that you are “just not good enough,” “not ready,” or is that “you will fail and embarrass yourself?” What’s your story and what can you do about it? What’s holding you back? Continue reading
Every kid can’t wait until they can be a grownup. The fantasy is that when you are an adult you can make your own choices, stay up all night and drink grownup beverages. It looks so easy and rewarding. But nobody tells you that it’s a lot tougher than it looks, that those feelings that you have that you are not good enough, that you’re doing something wrong, they tend to stay with you. Most people spend their life time trying to fit in and measure up. But there is a time when you start to see the truth that being grownup simply means that you know who you are and that you have the courage to be that person.
Most of us were raised to be ordinary but we all want to live an extraordinary life. We put restrictions on ourselves. What do you expect of yourself? Can you manifest the types of relationships you would like? If it were as simple as just following a manual, then everyone would just do that and be a success. You can go beyond being average. Continue reading