Doing the Hard Work: Saying No to Instant Gratification

Instant Gratification: Not!Have you ever experienced life as a big roller coaster ride?

Recently, there have been days when the ride has been blissful and then there were those really scary moments when you get to the top of the roller coaster and that sudden, fast swoosh sound from the wheels of the car below (or on top?) makes your insides feel like they are about to explode and you let out that gut wrenching scream. Sound familiar? Doesn’t it feel better after you get to yell at the top of your lungs?

We want to take a risk. We doubt. We fear. We feel overwhelmed. We second guess. We look for answers from others. We want to learn how they did it. We try their 7-step quick fix. We realize it may work for them but not us. Continue reading

The Road to Wellness is Tough and Yet, Rewarding

TimeWhat have you done for YOURself today?

We are socialized into a broken system that surrounds us each day of our life. It is sad but true that many people go through their life living someone else’s expectations of them: whether it is being a wife or husband, a parent, a worker, a community member, a citizen and an overall human being. We get sucked into peer pressure and false notions of “success.”

I ran away from home this year for my birthday. This is the first of many trips. It is going to be a life long celebration of my birth and it is beginning with this trip. I am focused not so much on QTR (quality time remaining) but QTB (quality time beginning). I no longer worry about disappointing anyone else in my life apart from myself. And no, I have not become a mega-narcissist (and believe me, I am sure since I once was married to one). I have spent this past year, since firing myself from corporate America, doing the really hard work. And it’s paying off. I am seeing improvements in all areas of my health and wellness. Continue reading

Never Ever Give Up


If you see life as a journey, you won’t expect instant gratification. Like any journey, there are highs, lows and twists in the road.

I feel sad when people give up hope. My take is that when you run into roadblocks, you need to:

1. Stop and breathe. Always breathe.

2. Turn down the volume on the voice in your head. What’s in your control? What can you do right now?

3.Are you waiting to be picked for the next job, project or event? What can you do to pick yourself?

And lastly, be kind to yourself. Sometimes you start something and it’s not for you. That’s not failure. That’s wisdom. Know when to turn up the volume and when to simply walk away.



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