Part of us wants to follow our heart and do what fulfills us and part of us wants to be safe by watching the latest episode of 30 Rock. Part of us want to be skinny and we know that sugar will deter us from that vision and yet, we eat the cookies. Continue reading
Why is it that when we accidentally fall down, the first instinct we have is to look around and see who saw us fall?
- Is it because we want to assess the damage of how humiliated we should be?
- Are we trying to figure out how mortified or embarrassed we should be that we could not stay balanced by seeing how many people are laughing at the goofiness of our meeting the ground unexpectedly?
- And, why is it that only after we assess the emotional damage, we can then try to determine the physical injury of your fall?
All these questions came into my head yesterday when I was eating breakfast and a 10-year old girl having breakfast with her family found herself on the floor. It happened really fast and I watched her chair flip and her body crash to the ground. She looked around mortified as her family’s first reaction was one of hysterical laughter. Not one of them asked her whether she was ok. They simply helped her up and discussed how the chair lost its balance. She looked at me. I was not laughing. Her cheeks went beet red as she sat there rubbing her elbows. The sound of laughter was probably still ringing in her ears.
What would you do today if no one laughed at you if you fell? Why do you care what other people see?
If there is something within you that needs healing, you could start by letting go of the past. If you are holding on to something — a person, place, situation, memory, hurt, or regret — that is really doing you no favors. I know it’s easier said than done to tell someone to move on, but really,we all need to release that which doesn’t belong in our lives. And at the same time, we need to find what’s working and give it more focus as it will help us make that change we’ve wanted to make in our life like finding a new job.
Take a minute and a white space or a piece of paper. Draw three boxes (as best you can):
As you do this, you will find that your physical health and well-being improve — from rising energy levels and vanishing aches and pains to feeling much happier in yourself.
So say goodbye to your baggage and prepare to feel a whole lot lighter. I did and I feel lighter every day.
Last year at this time I was on one of the most beautiful beaches in the world. It was a magical vacation. I just celebrated a dear friend’s 50th birthday with 20 of her
closest friends and family in Phuket. I treated myself to a week at Naka Island, which was pure bliss. I went on my own #1) because I am on my own and #2) I wanted to figure out how to change my life. It was a great experience and only the beginning of my journey of taking control of my life. One of the biggest changes I made was that this was the first time in over 12 years that I did not bring my work computer. Sure, I had my iPAD but I did not log on to my work email at all. This time was about me. This isn’t to say I wasn’t online and connected. I was because it’s part of who I am. I don’t need a break since I am not overwhelmed by social technologies. But I did need true time off work, which was defining my entire existence. When I returned from my vacation, I was a bit lighter but I fell right back into my old habits of working to live. Continue reading